I remember the day I stood in front of the priest and said my marriage vows, I had no idea that I was promising to end my sexual appetite and remain faithful for what now seems like an eternity.

I used hear the saying "Love is Blind" and think it meant that you could fall in love with anyone, even an unattractive person. Now I believe that the saying means that you will not clearly see the future until it's your distant past.

As I grow older, I've realised that one of the worst things about being married is the promise of celibacy. I honestly believe that people (men in particular) are NOT destined to be celibate. Yes there's a special someone, until that specialness wears off and your left with a partner that you have to look at and go to bed with every night that isn't special anymore. If your partner is a person you like, then it's may be a bearable union, BUT, if you look at your partner and realise that you don't like them, or even enjoy their company, this can lead to a very unhappy marriage. 

I'm writing this blog because I believe that even happy marriages shouldn't be celibate. Maybe one day in the future it will be acceptable and even fashionable to take a wife or husband for marriage and partnership but enjoy the sexual pleasures of not only that person but anybody else that you desire without any of the cheating consequences.  

I also believe that there's a massive difference between sex and love. Most adults can differentiate between the two. You CAN love someone and go home to that person day in and day out. BUT, love can get boring and the sex can become monotonous.

The kind of union I'm describing is called and "Open Marriage". This type of marriage usually has to be agreed upon by both partners for it to be a success otherwise it considered cheating. If I had my marriage to do all over again, I think I would enter into it with a partner who would agree to an open marriage.